You Are What You Attract

Some people may or may not agree with that. I'm not saying this is 100% accurate, but for the most part, I think so. I'm not saying that you're attracting only douchebags because you are one, but there's a good reason why they're flocking to you. Don't argue. Just accept it.

When I was in my wannabe ratchet stage, I attracted a bunch of no-good wannabe thugs. At the time, I was cool with that. When that stage ended, I began to mature. I attracted “classy thugs.” A step up from the previous assholes, but no Prince Charmings. When I got to college, I completely revamped my image from wild child to the quiet girl who no one knew. I started attracting friends who were content with not being in the “in crowd.” After college, when I started PBK, and decided what I wanted to do with my life, I attracted same-minded people.  

Now that I look on social networks, I realize that my theory on attracting like-minded people is pretty accurate. I can see guys @ing girls jokingly calling them hoes/bitches/ratchets..etc. While I'm sure females don't put in their twitter bios that they're cool with it, I believe that there is something about them that gives others the green light to go for it. Not even my closest acquaintances think I'm their “bitch.” Hell, my bf of 5 years has NEVER called me his “bitch.” Not even jokingly. I'm not a “bad bitch,” or my best friend's “hoe.” My best friend calls me her “Wife” (inside joke). And I've never had to announce or tell people not to address me in that manner. I'd like to think it has a lot to do with how I carry myself. (I could be wrong).  

On an interview, the interviewer feels your aura before you even open your mouth. No matter how dressed and qualified you are, you will always be judged off of how you carry yourself. How you carry yourself will always be either your downfall or your ascension.

So, I guess the question is: “what type of people do you attract?"