Yesterday, I was reading a blog from one of my favorite bloggers, and friend-in-my-head, Xilla of BlogXilla.com and ran across a blog titled, “Why Are Some Women So Concerned With Being Labeled A Hoe?” I was going to write a comment, but I decided to write a blog about this because he makes a good point to a certain extent. In his blog, Xilla writes that some women don’t have sex with someone too quickly out of fear of being labeled a hoe or whatever. It all depends on what you'd consider quick. First date? For me, too quick. After a couple dates? Sure. Do as you please.
I could give a flying cold, warm or hot damn if someone labels me as a hoe, but the real person who matters is me. I would never feel comfortable with myself having sex with someone after knowing them for a certain short amount of time and not knowing if it’s going to go anywhere. Like the average person, I like sex. And sometimes, the chemistry is definitely there, but in order for me to see if the spark will ignite further, I like to wait. The best engineers can make a flicker into a blazing fire. One night of “passion” can actually just be sexy lustful porn test run. Lol.
Another reason I decide to wait is that, as a woman, I like to be courted. Old-fashioned term? I think not. Chivalry is considered dead to many, but not me. Open doors, hold my hand when we walk, kiss me on the forehead (forehead kisses are sexy), kill spiders for me, dinner and a movie... etc. Not much to ask right? And as someone who sets their standards pretty high, I'd like to think I'm worth the wait. Let you get to know me before you know my body parts. Constantly trying to coerce me into sex is not going to speed up the process. If anything, it's a turn off. Don't get me wrong, I flirt, but when it's to the point where everything we talk about involves sex, I see where your mind is. I don't expect you to kiss my ass or shower me with attention. Just let me know that you're interested in what I have to say, even if we disagree. Sex will come at some point, but it isn't a main objective. By courting me, and proving yourself to me, let me know that you like me and not just what's underneath the clothes. It may be just me, but waiting is my preference.
What is your take on getting it in early?