In the spirit of my not-so-anniversary four-year-four-month anniversary today, I wanted to write why I think human beings long for love. I happened to get the idea from fellow blogger Lali S. of “st00pid DuMb & hYpHy.”
Why do we love? We love love because it gives us a sense of acceptance and belonging. It is said that everyone has a soul mate—a person who accepts and understands them 100%. If that is true, how would it feel to be alone? If everyone is paired up, we’d feel like the new kid at a new school in a new city in a new country.
Being loved gives us the strength to give the world the middle finger for not truly understanding us individually. Like Fabolous says, “I’m a movement by myself, but I’m a force when we’re together.” As one person doing the “slow clap building up to the full applause,” not everyone will catch on, but as soon as you have a person who will automatically join in, it’s a wonderful feeling.
My best friend and I are one of the silliest duos ever. We have almost nothing in common, but we can easily pass as the same person on any given day. Why? Because she’s my friend soul mate. We complement and harmonize with each other automatically. However, I also have someone who I believe is my relationship soul mate. He finds a way to balance being similar to me, but also completely opposite. The chemistry between us makes me feel like I’m safe no matter the distance between us. Literally, we met on September 7th, 2006 and have been almost inseparable ever since. The only time we’ve been apart is when I went overseas for 4.5 months. We’ve been together for four years and I’ve never been happier. As he puts it, “It seems like [he's] been there every night like pillows & cover. [He] has my back like a shirt tag. That's why I love [him].”
So why are we drawn to love? It makes us happy. It allows us to let our guard down yet still feel safe. Love gives us a reason for waking up in the morning and getting ready for a new day. Love allows us to face the unknown assuring us that there is someone out there looking for us. Love may not work the first few times, but it just means that there is someone who is perfect for you.