Recently, a mother has gotten a lot of criticism for allowing her 5-year-old son to dress up as Daphne from Scooby-Doo for Halloween. Why is it wrong for her to allow her son to dress up as his favorite character for a silly day of fun? Some people disagreed with her decision because of the idea that dressing like a female at his age can “make him gay.” On her blog, she responded to all of the heat:
"If you think that me allowing my son to be a female character for Halloween is somehow going to ‘make’ him gay then you are an idiot. Firstly, what a ridiculous concept. Secondly, if my son is gay, OK. I will love him no less. Thirdly, I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off." -Nerdy Apple Bottom
Yesterday, my question of the day was, “Why is the world so obsessed with not being label as homosexual?” Only two people responded to that, but the response that stood out to me stated:
“In short, because of the dominant ideologies in our culture, and the negative connotation that goes along with the word... At the same time, though, no one wants to be labeled as a heterosexual either. People want to be recognized as people...” -Ronnie R.
When I read that, I wondered why homosexuality has such negative connotations, but other things do not. We, as an American culture, always pride ourselves on being a tolerant group of people, but still have yet to accept homosexuality. We have coined such terms as, "No homo," and "That's so gay." Yet, infidelity, sexism, racism and misogyny are still tolerated.
The next comment came from my former roommate. She shared her story of what happened to her over the weekend:
“I was out with my friend and this woman, I guess thought we were together. She asked, because I was wearing a ring on my middle finger, if that means I’m gay. I answered ‘No, it doesn’t mean that, but I’m not gay.’ She says, ‘Oh. I’m glad you’re not.’ I responded, ‘Um. It’s not a bad thing, and it doesn’t matter if you are or aren’t.’ That really pissed me off.” -Lali S.
It’s unfortunate that there are people like that in the world. We’ve gotten so far advanced in our technology, but our morals still have not changed. Even as church-goers, we preach about not being judges because only God can do so, but we still do it indirectly. In sermons, especially in the fire-and-brimstone type of churches, preachers teach the word of God from the Bible and include their own opinions and interpretations of it. Although it is their job, sometimes, it’s difficult to agree that God will hate someone who does not obey His word to the tee. If God is our parent, He would love us unconditionally whether we mess up or not. Hypothetically, even if God was not going to forgive us for our lifestyle, who are we to be intolerant in our behaviors and actions? “God don’t like ugly,” as the term goes. Therefore, we should love our neighbors regardless if they are like us or not. We shall let God deal with them on Judgment Day, and we can breathe easier knowing that we are doing our part by loving them as the Bible says to do.